Suggestions for writing to transplant recipients

Most recipients would love to know about their donor. Talk about
your loved one, what they liked to do, their age, first name, the
kind of person they were.

You may want to:

Tell them why you made the decision to donate.

Wish them well on their recovery.

If you would like to hear from them, let them know. For example: “Dear Recipients, we would love to hear from you as it helps to know that some good came out of our tragedy.” 

We recommend that initially you keep identities anonymous. You may use first names, but please avoid including last names, addresses or phone numbers.

• Place the letter in an unsealed envelope.

• Include a separate sheet of paper with your name and the name of your loved one.

Keep in mind: Some recipients may respond to your letter, and others may choose not to write at this time. This is their personal decision. Many recipients have said they feel overwhelmed with emotion and have difficulty expressing their gratitude in a letter.

Sending your Letter
To protect the confidentiality of both the donor and recipient, all correspondence is initially facilitated through NJ Sharing Network. Once your letter is written, send it to the address below. Include a separate sheet of paper with your full name, address, phone number and date of transplant. You will be notified by NJ Sharing Network when your letter has been forwarded to your donor family. Any letters we receive from the donor family will be forwarded on to you directly or through your transplant center.

NJ Organ and Tissue Sharing Network
Family Support Program
841 Mountain Avenue
Springfield, NJ 07081

In the future you and your donor family may decide to contact each other directly or schedule a time to meet. Before releasing personal information, NJ Sharing Network requires that the donor family and recipient sign a release form.

Additional questions or help?
If you have any questions or need additional help, please contact
Mary Ellen McGlynn, Manager Donor Family Support Program at (973)379-4535